Wednesday, October 26, 2016

"My Best Friend Is Too Close To My Husband" – What Do I Do?

Honestly I’m not sure what’s going on in my marriage. Sometimes, I think I’m losing my mind for no reason. Then again, I feel something really wrong is going on. Let me give a bit of background.

I’m in my early 30s and I’ve been married for about 3 years without kids. My husband and I live in a European country and we have a great relationship. I have a BFF, let’s call her X.

She’s about my age but older by two years. Our parents worked for the same oil company and were very friendly with each other. We both went to the same secondary school in Nigeria, ended up in the West together for uni and have had loads of fun times together.

She knew my husband from the days of toasting to dating and marriage. To be fair to her, she has been so supportive. When I had no one or money difficulties as a student, she was there for me in a way no one could. A friend who is closer than a sister.

My problem is with her closeness with my husband. My husband and I are not from the same tribe. When marrying overseas, you can’t be filtering for tribe. However, X is from the same tribe as my husband.

Sometimes, the way they gist in their local dialect makes me uncomfortable, always laughing crazily like teenagers. In all my years of marriage, I haven’t enjoyed that the banter that they have.

Whenever when they discuss in English like when we all hang out together, I feel like the third wheel. Sometimes, my gut tells me she is flirting with him with her general body language and the way she makes faces at him. The fact that X was she was a wild chic at university just makes uneasy.

My husband doesn’t even seem to restrain her or himself, like I think a married man should. She hasn’t done anything overt. It is the nudging him in the ribs, the rubbing of his head or even gentle tugging of his beard that is making me go crazy. The way she laughs at his jokes; jokes that are not even funny. She is too damn relaxed in his presence.

She has even this nickname for him in their dialect. When my hubby got a promotion and we all went out to eat, X came to the restaurant dressed to the nines and wearing this incredible fragrance. Then she gave him this bear hug that I felt lasted for too long. I don’t feel all this is normal but I don’t want to be a prude.

I know she is not seeing anyone, she would tell me if so. Her life has been a bit scattered so she hasn’t cultivated a serious relationship. She’s prettier than I am and I know she shouldn’t have any problem attracting guys.

What can I do? I can’t just cut her off abruptly or ban her from her house. It would be odd and besides, we have a lot of mutual friends. To be fair to my husband, he hasn’t given me any tangible reason to be suspicious but you know what they say about naija men.

I don’t know of anytime they have been in the same place without my knowledge. But he is not helping matters the way he always invites her for events or compliments her or things like that.

I can’t confront husband because I may be making a mountain out of a mole-hill. The last thing I want is to be called a jealous wife. I can’t tell my parents because they never supported my marriage from the outset (tribal issues) and I want to prove them wrong.

I already have enough stress from work and trying to start a family. I feel so worn out. What do I do?

Anytime my Boko Haram husband wanted to sleep with me & I refused, he would rape me and beat me up’ : Sold to Boko Haram for N1,000, 17-yr-old gives chilling details of life in the terrorists camp

AMINATA (not her real name), 17, was taken by the Islamic group from her hometown, Borno State in Nigeria two years ago and married off to an insurgent. She had no choice but to live with the group who made her ‘witness terrible things. This interview was conducted in a protective location by a female UNICEF Nigeria Child Protection Officer on October 14 and was taken from the Daily Mail of UK.

“They saw me at my uncle’s house during their first attack on our town. I have lived with my uncle since I was two years old. My biological father and family live in Cameroon.

“Boko Haram invaded the town and convinced my uncle to join them. They also asked if there were any girls in his compound. They offered N1,000 for each girl.

“I was sitting next to my grandmother when they dragged me to a car. They took 14 other girls from my neighbourhood to an unknown location outside my town. I was held there for two months and then I was forced to marry one of the insurgents.

“Before you marry an insurgent, you are a maid. You wash plates and cook for the insurgents. But when you get married, you become a wife and also focus on only him.

“The ‘wedding’ had nothing. There was no clothing, no lotions, no creams, no presents. It was just in my old clothes that I went to the house of my ‘husband’, which was just a hut with a room in it. That was where we lived.
“Every time he wanted to have sex, I refused. He would rape me and beat me up. I cannot count the number of times he has beaten me.
“I lived there with the armed group for two years. It was a very bad experience. I have witnessed terrible things, including the slaughtering of women in a town by the insurgents.

“They killed women who refused to marry them. Once, they caught someone who had married another wife without telling them. They buried him up to his head in the ground. Then they stoned his head until he died. It was a public punishment that we were forced to watch.

“In some villages, when they attack, they steal cattle and sell it off before feeding their wives and children. We didn’t ever have enough food. And any food we did get didn’t have any condiments. The insurgents have to steal food from villages or attack villages before we eat. They don’t have any food.

“My ‘husband’ had three wives before me who became suicide bombers. But he decided he wanted me to remain as his ‘wife’. Two weeks later, he married another wife.

“My ‘husband’ told me that if he decided or wanted to, he would send me and my co-wife to town as suicide bombers. I was so scared.

“Three days after that, I told one of the women that I was going to a nearby village to visit my grandmother. My ‘husband’ gave me three days for the visit.

I was with my grandmother in that village when the military arrived to fight the insurgents.
“After the fighting, the military took me with them to Bama. I was in Bama with the military for a month before I was brought here.

“My uncle and his brothers are still with the insurgents, and I have seen them carry out terrible acts, including killing people.

“I really miss my family, and I wish I could see them again. We have been separated for too long. They live in Cameroon. I sincerely hope that everyone who has been taken like me can leave Boko Haram and be reintegrated back into society.

“My co-wife used to tell me to stop thinking about my parents, but she also said, ‘don’t worry, you will find them one day.’ I hope it is true.

“I have been living as an IDP here in this camp for four months. I am pregnant. When I discovered I was pregnant, I was so unhappy, because it was my ‘husband’ who did it.
“The pregnancy is very difficult for me, but people here in the camp have been kind. People ask me how I escaped, and when I tell them, they glory to God.

“It is good, because, although people know I was with the insurgents, so far, no one has treated me badly. I live with people from my local government area here in the camp.

“They have been very supportive. I only have a craving for certain foods which I cannot get here, and to see my family.

“I hope to get married one day in the future and to start a business. But because I have never been in school, I cannot start doing that now, unfortunately.

“I also want villagers who had to flee the conflict to remain here for a while and not rush back to their towns and villages to resettle. We suffered there tremendously.
“But I am extremely happy I am no longer with the insurgents. I want to thank all the people who have helped me. All I want now is to see my family again.”

The same publicity I shy away from has given me so much - Actress Moyo Lawal

Nollywood actress Moyo Lawal took to her Instagram page to thank her fans, haters and bloggers for finally making her grow a thick skin for publicity.

Read what she wrote below

"I woke up with this huge grin on my face .... and I just wanted to thank the people responsible for it..... You ๐Ÿ’‹...you๐Ÿ’‹ ...yes You!!! ๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹.... Thank you so much everyone❤ for giving me so many amazing challenging opportunities in not just acting but in music, fashion ,hosting ,etc....... Its ironic that I have always run for cover from publicity (still do,but working on it ๐Ÿ™before you know it ,I will become a social media addict ๐Ÿ˜›, who is seen everywhere, granting every single interview ,she is called for and not called for sef๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚๐Ÿ˜‚ )sorry๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹.......... I digress....... Anyways like I was saying ...No..writing๐Ÿ‘ฟ is this same publicity that I shy away from so much that has given me so much .... Am guessing ,the time has come to actually embrace it ,feed it and actually enjoy it ,sorry๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹digressing again....... Anyways this is just me thanking๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹๐Ÿ’‹ ................. The blogs❤ .......The lovers❤.......the eeem non -lovers???❤ ... Thank you....Thank you.... .....p.s my.... **trending frenzy *** ...doesnt scare me anymore ,I think๐Ÿ™ˆ... I have finally grown that thick skin that everyone keeps asking me to grow ,sure took me forever thou ๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’๐Ÿ˜’ ....for that am crushing on myself ❤... #wcw... #Nollywoodbombshell ... #moyoorfierce #Moyolawal .....for now๐Ÿ™ˆ still #thebaddestgoodgirlyouknow ๐Ÿ˜› ...#Soblessedandfiercelygrateful ..... P.s..p.s.....oh yes ,Thank you so much amazing people❤... that actually take out their time to write me such amazing messages.... Your support means the world to me .... Thank you so much ❤❤❤"

Check out these beautiful viral photos of a man who married his girlfriend with Down syndrome

Photos of this beautiful couple has been circulating on the Internet and they are so adorable! The man got married to his girlfriend of several years, who was born with Down Syndrome.

They look so good! May God bless their union. More photos below

Precious Chikwendu cries out: "It's clear they want Femi Fani-Kayode dead at all cost"

Femi Fani-Kayode reportedly slumped in EFCC custody over the weekend. Although the anti-graft Agency have since denied that such happened, FFK's media aide & wife, Precious insist that it's true.
"Its very clear they want FFK dead at all cost. He is a man that would never give you the pleasure of seeing him down so saying he isn't ill or never slumped on Saturday is just a way of trying to deny him medical attention. He is ill and constantly checks into the clinic at the Commission and you have seen the health reports. This is pure wickedness," Precious said.

Brazilian man rescued after being held captive by his father for at least 20 years [Photos]

A 36-year-old Brazilian man was freed Monday after allegedly being held captive by his father and step-mother in the basement of their home for at least 20 years. Police in Brazil came across Armando de Andrade by accident after searching homes in quest of members of a drugs gang.

The man, who disappeared when he was 16, was reportedly tied to a bed in a tiny, windowless room of the house in Sao Paulo.

He was found with 'enormous' toenails and fingernails and a long beard which had grown down to his knees, according to witnesses, while police officers who found him described him as 'malnourished'.
Police believe he lived in virtual darkness for two decades in a room without light fittings, while the floor was reportedly covered in human faeces.

Police chief Celso Marchiori, who is investigating the case, said of the moment policemen found him:

'He got up, very impaired and didn't speak a word. We took him outside and he still didn't say anything. We didn't know if he was scared or drugged.
'He wasn't able to identify us as police officers. We called for help and he was taken straight to hospital', the police said.
Neighbours in the Guarulhos district of Sao Paulo, southeast Brazil, recalled how Armando was a normal 16-year-old, who liked skateboarding and playing the guitar, when he suddenly disappeared. His friends never saw him again and when they inquire from Armando's family, they were always told he had moved to another part of Brazil where he was building his family and ‘doing well'.

Armando is currently being cared for in the psychiatric ward of a local hospital, where he is reportedly too traumatised to speak. Meanwhile, Police have launched an investigation to look into Armando's detention, but his father and step-mother, who have not yet been arrested, are reported to have fled their home following aggression from angry neighbours.

Michelle Would Divorce Me If I Ran For President Again - Obama

President Obama has revealed the First Lady is more than ready to move on

In an interview on “Jimmy Kimmel Live!” Monday, President Barack Obama spoke candidly about his time in office and jokingly revealed that his wife Michelle once gave him a stern warning against him seeking a third term.He said
“Personally, for me, if I were able to run for a third time, Michelle would divorce me,” Obama joked as the crowd burst into laughter. “So it’s useful that I don’t have that choice to make.”  
“[Michelle] is spectacular but [she] was never wild about politics,” Obama said. “Michelle once explained to me: ‘I try to organize my life not to have a lot of mess around and politics is just a big mess.’” 
Their daughters Sasha and Malia are also on board with mom. 
“All the women in my life are looking forward to being able to live a more normal life,” Obama admitted. 

APC Will Collapse By January If Things Continue Like This – Acting Spokesman‎

The acting National Publicity Secretary of the All Progressives Congress, APC, Comrade Timi Frank has warned that unless President Muhammadu Buhari takes urgent action, the party would collapse.

He believes it could happen by January 2017. He gave this warning in Abuja while appraising recent developments in the party, revealing that several realignments were presently going on in the country which could make the APC cease to exist totally by 2019.
He said, “You are aware that there are several realignments going on now in the country and my party has only [between] now and January 2017 to put its house in order. 
“If we don’t harmonize all the contending interests, some of us would be exploring new avenues to pursue our various political agenda.”

Timi Frank said the only way to rescue the party would be for the president to intervene and support calls for the resignation of Chief John Odigie-Oyegun as the national chairman of the APC.

He reminded the President of how Chief Oyegun as chairman of ANPP frustrated him [Buhari] out of the party, forcing him to go and form the defunct Congress for Progressive Change (CPC).

“The same thing is now happening in the APC and Mr President has to act fast because that same thing that drove him out of the ANPP then is also about to drive some people out of the APC because of Oyegun,” he stated.

Frank who claimed he was speaking the mind of most members and other stakeholders of the party, asserted that “at the appropriate time, more leaders of the party would speak out.”

He said he would soon write formally to the President and Vice President Yemi Osinbajo, as well as the leadership of the National Assembly to seek their audience in other to adequately brief them on the circumstances that have necessitated the calls for Odigie-Oyegun’s resignation.

“I will also consult the governors (of our party) to make them understand the danger inherent in their silence in the face of the wave of crisis that has enveloped the party.

“This is like a rescue mission I am about to embark on. This struggle to rescue APC is not personal. It is because I love this party so much and I am a very loyal party man and I believe in this party.

“I am also going to pay a visit to our former vice president, Alhaji Atiku Abubakar; I will also visit Asiwaju Bola Ahmed Tinubu and all the past national chairmen that made the merger to work. I am going to pay visit to my own former national chairman, Alhaji Kawu Baraje, of the then New PDP, Chief Bisi Akande of the then ACN, Chief Ogbonnaya Onu of the then ANPP, Chief Tony Momoh of defunct CPC and Gov Rochas Okorocha who led a section of the APGA to make the APC. This visit is one that I will start anytime soon.”

Tuesday, October 25, 2016

TROUBLE!! "Davido you are a motherf****ker" - Kaffy lashes out

Dance queen,Kaffy has lashed out at Davido for firing his dancers at the last minute after they rehearsed for his show.She recorded an angry video where she slammed the star and other artistes who take dancers for granted ..
It's alright if artiste don't need us . We are artistes ourselves . It is very disrespectful for you to look down at and trample on people who in one way or the other contribute to where u are today. Dance is our widows mite to a lot of your careers . All u need to do is respect us.

Even other people under you suffer ur arrogance from stylist to band men.
This message is for those of you that disrespectfully disregard us dancers especially.
@davidoofficial if u don't want dancers express it way before U agree to allow them dance than when u about to climb the stage u decide u don't need us again.or tell dancers not to come near u while u perform .wtf.
It's not ur fault we have learnt our lesson and we thank arrogant artiste like u as this will not continue for long.
Nowadays artiste take a piss. People pay a lot of money to see u come out and give a good show it requires more than u jumping all over the place with no content . Even some artiste in other countries who perform alone still plan their craft. They practice they rehearse the Are never tired of doing better than their last. But here most don't care only few like @peterpsquare and @rudeboypsquare @2niteflavour @tiwasavage @efya_nokturnal @iamseyishay @dareydarey even @jidenna a one man performer plans his craft for his fans. (This is to mention a few out of the few)
to those who still respect our craft.

Kim Kardashian robbery: Paris police chief admits he didn't know her and had to Google her name

Paris' chief of police has admitted he had to google  Kim Kardashian's name as new information about her robbery ordeal has emerged.
Christian Sainte spoke to Vanity Fair Magazine about the reality TV star's terrifying night during Paris Fashion Week.French residents have dubbed the robbery "L'Affaire Kardashian" or simply "Kim" and Sainte says he was woken up at 3am and told of the news...

."I asked my number two, 'Who is this victim?'"
 So the chief rose from his bed and went to his computer, where he entered the name “Kim Kardashian” on Google.
“And I quickly understood who she is,” “And now I know almost everything about her.”"The personality of the victim, Kim Kardashian, is not like anyone else,"She has a lot of likes on Facebook!"
On the crime, he said
We can say that there is a professional team that committed this crime, and they seem to be organised,

SHOCKER!! Blac Chyna's ex is asking a court to order a paternity test on her unborn child

MediaTakeOut is always They got part of this report from Radar Online. Read the messy gist below

The Blac Chyna and Rob Kardashian mess just got messier. According to Radar Online, Blac Chyna’s alleged lover is asking for a court supervised paternity test. Chyna took a “test” while on her reality show, but her alleged lover Pilot Jones doesn’t believe the results from the one. Here is what they are reporting:

Blac Chyna’s lover is demanding a DNA test to prove that Rob Kardashian is not the father of the reality star’s baby, has learned. As Radar reported, the reality star and Kardashian’s fiancรฉe was secretly hooking up with singer and actor Pilot Jones earlier this year, and an insider told Radar he’s telling friends he will demand a DNA test from his former fling, in an episode that aired just weeks after Radar exposed her affair with Jones.

Photo: Refugee woman dies after giving birth to twins

Identical twins, Chan and Ngor were born on Oct 13. Sadly, their young mother passed away during child birth.

They are now being cared for at the MSF Hospital in Malakal Protection of Civilians site, South Sudan. The boys are healthy but face an uncertain future as the country is in the midst of a bitter civil war. Photo credit: Fabio Basone for Doctors Without Borders

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